what are you worth?

Imagine you have just arrived for a meeting, you were slightly late, this stressed you and now you are in the hotel. Your client/friend is later than you. Coffee has been ordered, you are sitting and waiting and in comes Alex, the person you were waiting for. He/she holds out the car key and says, "Can you please help me out here and do me a favour, I had to double park the car because I'm desperate for a pee, can you take it into the underground car park and park it for me?"
You can't believe it, it is a brand-new Porsche, 5 days out of the showroom and now you are going drive it round the block and park it!

Question:- Do you drive it any differently into the garage compared to the way you drove your car to the appointment?

Answer:- Most probably, very differently.

Question:- Why?

Answer:- Expensive and new car, not yours - extra care needed (I am right, is this correct?)

Observation:- You have totally missed the point!
It is only a car.
It is insured.
Another can be ordered and replaced (Alex may be a bit fed up!)

But you, the driver - you are unique and irreplacable.

We value things that cost money and take for granted the things we are born with.

Start to value yourself and your uniqueness - start to plan a little "me" time.

If you don't keep a diary, start now and make sure that you block out some time when you can have some time for you, to do what you want, just for you. Make sure you aren't disturbed. Make arrangements for the dog to be walked, the children to be collectd/fed/minded or what ever, just plan it, an evening, an afternoon, a morning. Something spoiling for you -you deserve it.

We all have the same time in each day but some people use it wisely, others let it slip by and it can never be replaced.


Remember, some people make things happen, some watch what happens but most people say
" What happened! "

What is this - The Healing Broker?

You cannot separate the various compartments of your life, no matter how hard you try. This is a time of great change and most people have been affected financially by the downturn in one way or another - from the highest paid individuals having to return parts of their pension pot down to the lowest paid losing their jobs and possibly their homes.

My purpose on this blog is to help guide you through these fast changing times with updates and help in specific financial areas, but mainly and most importantly on how you can come through it successfully. Everything is cyclical - everything! And nothing lasts forever, good or bad, and that includes Bank Rates, Property Prices, your Winning Team or Losing Streak.

Stress makes smart people stupid!

The underlying message in all that I write, today and future, is that you are in charge of your thoughts and your reactions to your outside world. Your health is the most important thing in your life but because most of us are born with good health and it is free, we don't value it until something goes wrong.

Science is proving now that stress causes many illnesses and dis-ease. So what can you do in these stressful times?

First thing is to face what the problems are and write them down.

Take an A4 sheet, fold it in half or draw a line down the middle, top to bottom, and on the left hand side list the items that worry you and cause concern.
On the right hand list all the things you are grateful for - no matter how small.

So for example a friend of mine complained that she hated her job, hated the people, hated the office but didn't want to leave because she was unsure if she would find anything else easily.

So I asked her to do the above excercise with me:-
Question 1 - Are you paid?
answer: Yes
Q. do you like that?
A. Yes
Write it down!
Q. Is it close to home?
A.Yes
Q Do you like that?
A . Yes
Write it down

and so on, she found there were about 30 things she liked about the job when originally she said she hated everything.
3 or 4 weeks later we met up and the first thing she said was that it was extremely interesting how the people in her office had changed and how nice they were and how much better her job was! Of course, they and it hadn't changed but she had changed how she viewed things.
This sounds simplistic but then, that's what the best things are, simple!

So before you go to bed tonight, do the above excercise and add 5 things that you achieved today - no matter how small or how trivial someone else may view them.
and before you go to sleep, feel appreciation for the people you know and care for and your own unique 5 achievements